Many concessions
Someone was giving me advice about dating or meeting people or SOMETHING. The gist was that I should be polite, interested, sociable and not diffcilut to get along with. I was aghast, “I go to work, I’ve remained employed, I am polite to my colleagues, I get along with the people there, and now you tell me that in addition to doing that I have to be friendly and helpful and polite to MORE PEOPLE?”
She said, “oh…I didn’t realize that so many concessions had already been made.”
I’m having one of those days (months, years, lifetimes) where I want to subject even the most reasonable request to a negotiation. Today I am at the Korean War and I WILL not let talks continue unless the damn table is round. I am Den1se Rich and I won’t sell any more of my multi-million dollar songs give money to the presidential library until some president pardons my gonif of an ex-husband.
During these times I find solace in fiction, televised or on the page. I need a new book, so yesterday I watched several hours of TV, including three episodes from the second season of the Wire and last week’s episode of Survivor. I say to the most recent bootee, “hahahahaha” and many other things.
My holidays have left me a bit depressed. I am trying to shake it off.
April 22, 2008 at 12:16 pm
Didn’t Survivor RULE??? Best. Episode. Ever. Ozzy is an idiot. I will have to come up with a few books for you. What do you prefer to read. Or, rather, what do you hate? That might be easier for you to answer.
April 22, 2008 at 12:18 pm
I have a book coming–it’ll be fine. I bought the new Lynley mystery because I want to read it the second it hits print.
April 22, 2008 at 12:24 pm
You might enjoy Donald Westlake - comic capers, particularly the ones with Dortmunder in them. I find his stuff hilarious. Also, Haven Kimmel. She’s got two memoirs out. Not fiction but still very good. I like Elizabeth George. And Ruth Rendell. Etc.
April 22, 2008 at 12:45 pm
Some of us consider being difficult to get along with as a virtue. Maybe other people need to learn to DEAL WITH IT.
Also, hope the clouds clear for you soon.
April 22, 2008 at 1:04 pm
We shouldn’t have to change to be loved. That’s called giving in. I’ve done it all my life and here I sit with no one, Cranky. We are called the Whole Package. People who change to be loved are generally miserable. And guess what? Guys have flaws too. Yes, I know you’re surprised about that. And you don’t hear about them needing to change to find someone. No, they expect us to love them, warts and all. And that’s how it should be. Be honest. Why? Because it takes a lot of work to be someone who you’re not. I know. I went that route for most of the men I dated and it was very tiring and I never really knew if they really knew me. And then they left me anyways. Great plan, huh?
April 22, 2008 at 1:14 pm
No wonder you and AJ get along. Because everything is a negotiation in this house at the moment. It is totally exhausting when you’re on the other end, even as in the back of your head you are totally admiring his moxie.
April 22, 2008 at 2:08 pm
Thanks for the pep talk, Witty. Harriet, after I posted I realized that I was sounding a bit AJ-like. That makes sense because I feel very 7 today.
April 22, 2008 at 3:29 pm
I am wondering if the speed dating thing is the right way for you to meet guys. It would make so much more sense to look where you’ll find the kind of person you could stand to be with, and vice versa. Maybe join a debating society? It seems to me that the guy for you would be smart, verbally articulate and a willing sparring partner when it came to matching wits. The whole speed dating thing and internet singles services seem to cater to the superficial. I don’t think you’ll find your ideal partner at either of those places.
April 22, 2008 at 6:21 pm
She said, “oh…I didn’t realize that so many concessions had already been made.”
Ha!
Lass is right –
April 25, 2008 at 11:30 am
Aw Cranky, sorry you are, em, cranky. hee hee. I don’t know about the polite and social crap. That seems sort of superficial to do just because you are trying to attract someone. I think a Cranky mate is out there and he will love you for who you are. And I’m pretty sure you aren’t going to catch him with fake honey. My two cents.